Monday, September 25, 2017

Life Stages Part II - How shall we Earn?

In the spring of 1996, my wife Saundra and I were operating an automation consulting business that was doing terrible. That year, we had adjusted gross income of $5,000 – and three children at home. I was traveling around North Georgia attempting to sell electrical sensors and controls to various companies, and occasionally selling my time as an automation consultant – I had been on nearly 500 factory floors in my career, each time for the purpose of improving the production or the quality of the production line. I had solved some terribly difficult problems. Yet, few people were willing to pay for that knowledge.

And then, wiring up a large hydraulic press’s control system, a misconnection fried a $5000 control module which I had to replace. Looking back, I see the damage was a warning to me from God that I wasn’t following God’s will. But God sent me a $5,000 check from a friend investing in the business that very same day. 

A week later, continuing to work, I received a flash burn on my right hand as the 480 Volt, 600 Amp service arced between the phases. This put me in the hospital for the weekend. There were pieces of metal embedded in my glasses, my hair was crispy, my upper arm was painfully red, my wrist had blisters on it, and my fingers were burnt grey like elephant hide.

Exodus 16:2-15; Psalm 105:1-6, 37-45; Philippians 1:21-30; Matthew 20:1-16

But God is good, and the surgeon did good work removing the dead flesh. The physical therapist was wise and I followed his very painful instructions. For you see, after the operation, Saundra asked the surgeon how well I might recover, and he said, “Well, he’ll probably never play the piano…” Yet every Sunday I play the piano in a church service. God is good!

Because of this injury, I chose not to do anymore electrical wiring. In fact, that September, I purchased two books and developed a website, which was written in HTML code on Notepad, a program that has been built into every Windows PC since before there was Windows. A friend donated a modem to us. And that website eventually took us to a three-quarters of a million dollars in annual sales at a great profit margin as we sold inkjet ink by the pint bottle over the web. But it wouldn’t have happened if God hadn’t fried my hand. 

One of the stages of our lives is the stage of earning money. In our normal flow of life, after we learn, after we go to high school and college, we earn money. Most people trade the hours of their lives for money. We earn money – and with that money we earn, we purchase the necessary things of life - water, food, clothing, shelter – and we purchase the luxuries that make life easier and more secure – a car, a smart phone, furniture, soft pillows, hot water, restaurant food, dishwashers, and televisions. We purchase entertainment like cable television, movies, books, travel, and games. We buy tools that help us to earn more money or not to spend money so quickly, like pickups, drill presses, saws, computers, office buildings, or art supplies.

And so, in the modern world, our life settles down for 40 or 50 years of earning money which flows to other people. And we save money for the life stage after we earn by putting money into pensions, 401K’s, IRA’s, life insurance, mutual funds, and savings accounts. We pay off our mortgages so we won’t have that expense when we get old.

Judging from the commercials on television, earning money and saving money and spending money is everything in life. As Ted Turner, the founder of Superstation WTBS once said, “Life’s a game. Money is how we keep score.”

But when we look at the Word of God, we see a different view of money. We see a different view of this life stage we are calling our “earning years”.

In our reading from Exodus, the first reading, six hundred thousand Israelites have left Egypt and are out in the desert. And, you know what? Water isn’t normally found in the desert. But God led Moses and the people to a place with twelve springs called Elim.

But there’s something else about the desert. Because water is rare, you don’t find much livestock or the grass that the livestock needs. And bread is made from ground wheat, and wheat is simply another type of grass. You don’t find wheat in the desert or other grains, and so the people of Israel looked around and said, “There’s no food! There’s no meat and there’s no bread! We used to buy them at the grocery store! We wish we were back in Egypt as slaves because we had food to eat there!”

And so God and Moses and Aaron had a talk. God said, “I’m going to give them a test and see if they will listen to me.”

And God said that he would send them meat in the evening and bread in the morning.

How do you get your food? Who provides you with your food? Is it the grocery store, with the money you earned through your work? Or is there something deeper here, something more fundamental? The people of Israel learned that God does not need a marketplace to provide people with food.

Quail, those little chickens you can buy for $8 a pound at Kroger…Quail covered the camp in the evening, and you can bet that some of the smarter Israelites quickly figured out how to catch and cook those quail. Quail wings, quail legs, quail breasts, quail thighs - Israel ate well that evening. And so there was meat in the evening.

And in the morning, there was dew, but when the dew evaporated, there were little flakes covering the ground. And everybody said, “What is it?” In the language of the time, “Man hu?”, literally means, “what is?” Manna.

And Moses said, “It is the bread the Lord has given you to eat.”


Did the people of Israel earn this manna? No. Not at all. Were they being particularly good? No – they were complaining! Yet God gave them what they needed. God gave them the bread. God gave them the quail. And soon, God would miraculously give them water.

God gave Saundra and I the sales from our ink business. We put up the website and the money came pouring in like manna from heaven. We worked hard, but we didn’t work nearly as hard as we had worked when we were selling the automation equipment. We began to pay off debts. We were able to spend more time with the children and get more involved in our church. God provides.

Jesus also has something to say about earning money. He tells the parable of the man who needed work done in his vineyard, so one morning very early he went to the marketplace and found the day laborers and hired them for the day, telling them he’d pay them a denarius, a normal day’s wages, about $100 in today’s money.

After he set them to working on the vines, he went back the marketplace around nine o’clock, and there were some more men standing around, so he hired them and told them he’d pay them what was right, and they began to work. And the owner went back at noon and at 3 pm and hired more workers. Finally, about 5 in the evening, he went back and found a few more standing around and hired them to work until dark.

When sunset came, he had the workers line up, with the short time workers first, and those who had worked all day last. And he paid everyone a denarius. Everybody got a hundred dollars.

Now, of course, this upset the guys who had worked all day. Why were they getting the same pay as the guys who had only worked an hour or two? Shouldn’t they get 4 or 8 times as much money? If you’ll pay a man $100 for one hour of work, shouldn’t you pay someone $1000 or $1200 for a twelve hour day?

The owner said, “I think you’re just jealous. You agreed to work for a denarius, a hundred dollars, didn’t you? What are you complaining about? It’s my money and I have the right to be generous."

When we work, we usually choose lines of work. Some of us choose to be doctors, some choose to be oilfield workers, some choose to work in retail and others choose to be stay-at-home mothers, skipping college perhaps, and going straight to the family stage. These are decisions we all make.

Sometimes God steps in and pushes us in one direction or the other, but usually we have made decisions that started us down the path. We didn’t like classrooms, so we got a job delivering goods to an oil platform. We fell in love early, so we married and had to get whatever job was available. We liked working alone and were good at math, so we eventually moved into accounting. We loved children, so we became a teacher. Our uncle told us great stories of his time in the Army, so we volunteered for the Army.

And yet…like the workers that started at the beginning of the day, when we get older we feel somehow cheated. We are close to retirement and a young man of twenty-eight years of age is hired to be our manager and we know he’s being paid twice what we are paid. After working twenty years at a coal mine we are laid off. We see an NFL player paid $8 million and that bothers us. It bothers us when someone makes more money than we do. And somehow, we think that we somehow set our pay scale and then we earn our wages. And the reality is…..Yes and no.

Yes, we are to earn our living by the sweat of our brow, as God told Adam when we were kicked out of the Garden of Eden.

But it is easy to buy into Ted Turner’s idea of money being the way we keep score in life. For life is not about how much we earn in this life, but about the rewards we receive in the life to come. If life is like a game of golf, then God is actively moving the holes and the sand traps and water hazards to individually challenge each of us, to make us the best golfers we can be.

For, you see, happiness in this life depends upon knowing that you are doing something worthwhile. If you believe deep in your heart that earning money so you can have nice cars, a nice home, and nice furniture is the key to happiness…it will be for you…as long as you are earning that money. But what happens when you can’t earn that money? What happens when you lose your job?

I have a friend who was happy as long as her 401k account was increasing each month. She had paid off her cars, she had paid off her home, she had money saved for her children’s education, she had a huge sum of money in her account for retirement, enough that she could live just as she had been living for twenty, thirty, or forty years without cutting back or earning anything more….yet when she was laid off from hers supposedly secure job, she was deeply disturbed and unhappy. You see, that 401k account had become the measure of who she was and her value. She decided her worth and value by the growth of that 401k account.

Our God is a jealous God. He does not want the worship of anything else – including our earning power. And He has the power and ability and desire to shut down any business that has become an idol for its owners or employees. Do you depend upon your pension fund? Or worse, do you worship that fund?

Like the vineyard owner, God gives to each of us what God chooses to give to each of us. We are to earn money through work, yes. But we also must understand that God controls all the money of the world. God alone chooses what to pay us.

In his sermon number fifty, “On the Use of Money”, John Wesley wrote:

I. We ought to gain all we can gain but this it is certain we ought not to do; we ought not to gain money at the expense of life, nor at the expense of our health.

He said that we should not hurt our physical health nor our mental or spiritual health through our earning. Life is more important than gold. We shouldn’t work in poison, in physically harmful occupations because they harm our physical health. A man who cons others is harming his spiritual health. Are you hurting or helping your neighbors with your work?

Consider Sam Walton, the man who founded Wal-Mart. You may not shop at Wal-Mart, but Sam, a Presbyterian deacon, always had his focus to learn how to sell products to many people at a cost lower than anyone else, for this would help everybody who bought from him. Others may choose to shop at boutiques, but those who shop at Wal-Mart shop there because the products are reasonably quality at very low prices. And Sam grew wealthy because of all the people he helped. And Sam never forced anyone to work for him. He simply developed a way of selling things so efficiently that people chose to buy from him and other people chose to work for him. By all accounts, Sam's spiritual health was wonderful - humble, friendly, concerned about others to the day he died.

On the other hand, consider the men who have laws changed so only their products can be sold or only their stores can operate. Consider the companies that push law changes so everybody has to purchase their product. For example, every car made today must have a backup camera. It’s the law. Even if you don’t want to pay for one, every car comes with one, with the price built-in. And in the past, we’ve seen this happen with all sorts of safety-related products – seatbelts, airbags, car seats for older and older children.

Did you know that Chrysler once produced a built-in “pop-up” car seat for a minivan? The law was quickly changed to make these built-in seats illegal so we’d have to buy separate car seats from the car seat makers.

Consider also the company towns where the only employer was the company and the company-owned store. These people risk their spiritual health for they harm others through their practices while only enriching themselves and harming their customers.

Does your business help people or is it an elaborate method to con people out of their money?

Do not hurt your health – physical, mental, or spiritual- because of your work. And do not hurt your neighbor’s health because of your work.

II. Do not throw the precious talent into the sea.

If you have the ability to design solutions to worldly problems, do so. If you have great talents, use them. If you can sway people for God through your words, do so. If you can sing people to Christ, then sing. If you can move people through your arts and crafts, then use your arts and crafts. If you can write, write. If you can make beauty in a garden which glorifies God, garden. If you have a talent for listening to people and helping them see good in this life, listen! Don’t throw your talents into the sea where they will sink down, unused.

III. Having, First, gained all you can, and, Secondly saved all you can, Then "give all you can."

John Wesley encouraged his followers to earn and gain wealth. He encouraged them to save their money. And then, he encouraged people to give their money generously, both to the church for the church to spend wisely, but also directly to people in need. And so, over the centuries, Methodists began Goodwill Industries, and Methodists started the Salvation Army. Today, Methodists give to the United Methodist Committee on Relief, which is currently helping people in Houston, in Florida, in Puerto Rico recover from the hurricanes.

Earning money isn’t a sin. Worshipping money, loving money, holding onto money….there are the sins. Andrew Carnegie earned a billion dollars – and then he gave it away, largely by building public libraries throughout Pennsylvania, Ohio, and West Virginia and New York.

Bill Gates earned $80 billion. And now he gives away $4 billion a year for healthcare research for developing countries.

We could do  something too. I’ve noticed something recently. Many people end up in the hospital and in the hurry to get there, they left behind their phone chargers. Perhaps someone would like to take on the project of providing each floor at UHC with about 30 phone chargers, each labeled “Courtesy of _________ Church”. About 200 chargers altogether, a cost of about $1000.

Most of you know that churches in America are funded by the donations of the people who attend those churches. Your donations pay for the heating, the cooling and the maintenance of this building. Your donations pay my salary and insurance and pension and car mileage when I visit you at the hospital. Your donations pay for the bulletins you have in front of you, the curriculum used in our Sunday school classes, the Bibles we give children, and anything else we use to bring people to Christ and teach them, including money we give directly to people who need a bit of a help. And your donations, along with the donations of the other Methodist churches, pay for district superintendents, for clergy training, for youth events, for missionaries around the world, and for subsidies to the poorest churches so people who don’t have jobs can still hear the Word of God preached. Special donations go for flood cleanup kits in Houston and Miami and Farmington, for water bottles in Puerto Rico, for food in Haiti.

Like most women, my wife Saundra likes to decorate our home with beautiful things. But a few years ago, she suddenly came to the understanding that at some point, enough work has been done, enough pictures have been hung, enough trinkets are sitting on shelves. At some point, the money spent on these things is money that could have gone to support a food pantry, a missionary, a Clarksburg mission. Have you reached that point in your life? Have you reached the point where you are no longer struggling, but are comfortable? Are there enough toys for the kids, enough clothing for work, enough pairs of shoes, enough pieces of furniture, enough songs on the iPhone?

I've been to a lot of funerals recently. And I've never yet seen a Uhaul behind the hearse, taking all of the deceased's stuff with them. I've never seen a person's stuff come to see them at the visitation. I've never seen stuff shed a tear for the deceased. 

Think about whether or not you have enough stuff...

If so, think long-term about what you will do with what God allows you to earn. Could you give more to the church, to a mission, to a charity? Could you start a brand new mission project? Could you buy a life insurance policy which benefits the church or a charity – not a building, not dead stone and bricks and wood, but people who benefit because you have funded an outreach festival, a DVD that explains the Gospel, a video game that leads children to Jesus, the recording of sermons to put on the Internet or on the radio? Could you take the money God has allowed you to earn and move to another country where you’d lead people to Christ? Could you help fund a week of revival at a park? Could you put a hundred dollar bill each month in the grocery bag of some different struggling young mother? Could you give a $20 tip to your tired waitress or your young auto parts salesman for his family?

We earn money only because God is generous and allows us to earn those funds using talents that God has given us. Without God supporting us, we would have no ability to earn, no ability to spend, no ability to even live. We need God to give us even the basics – even when we think we are earning hundreds of thousands of dollars a year.

And so, when we are in the earning stage of life, our task is to unapologetically earn money that we turn around and give where the needs are in this world. It is a stage of life that we find ourselves in from time to time.

There was a young man who earned his first paycheck - $200. He took the check to the bank and then began to walk home. He set aside in his pocket $20 for his church. And he thought about the video game he would buy, that he would buy over the internet when he got home.
But he saw a man sitting along the sidewalk with no shoes, so he bought a $40 pair of sneakers and gave them to the man.

Later, he saw a woman with a child begging for money, so he bought an $40 bag of groceries and gave it to the woman.

He got home and set aside $50 for his rent. He had just $50 left to buy a bag of groceries for the week. Nothing for the video game.

Just then, his mail was delivered. In the mail was $200 from his grandmother, a gift to help him with his new apartment.

So I ask you to sit quietly with God this afternoon, praying a two-way prayer with the Holy Spirit. Ask the Spirit: "How should I earn money? What should I do with that money? Where should I stop spending so that I can do more for God’s will?"

Listen for the still, small voice of the Holy Spirit to reply.

And then….act.

Amen.

Tuesday, September 19, 2017

Life Stages Part I

The big thing in the world of business marketing and sales for the last 75 years has been the concept of market segmentation. When the folks on Shark Tank or another set of venture capitalists are looking to invest in a new business, the key question they ask the business owner is “what is your market segment?” They want to know “Who are you going to sell to?” Are you selling to stay-at-home mothers, to wealthy professionals, to poor blacks, to Hispanic men, to college students, to 13 and 14 year old girls in the suburbs, to non-white doctors, to gay men who live in rural areas, to suburban veterinarians? Who is your market? Who are you selling to?

Numbers 21:4-9; Psalm 98:1-5; 1 Corinthians 1:18-24; John 3:13-17


After all, you can’t sell to everybody because different groups of people have different needs and wants. We found this out when we wrote instructions for refilling ink cartridges when we started that business back in '97. For one simple cartridge, I wrote, “drill a 1/16” hole in the top of the cartridge and squirt the ink in through the hole.” A guy who lived in Manhattan, in New York City, called me to ask where to get a drill and I realized that day that I’d need to develop instructions that could be used by people who don’t have drills.

And we’ve seen this in our schools. We use a bit of market segmentation. Each teacher becomes a specialist. One teacher teaches 3rd grade, another teaches 5th grade, another driver’s education, another teaches World Cultures. Our students are grouped, not by interests, not by background, not by anything except their age, with a bit of adjustment for their ability. Let’s put all the kids who turn ten years old this year in one set of classrooms, because we assume they are all pretty much alike. It makes our life easier.

After all, Dodge trucks are all the same and come off the same assembly line, so children who are all the same should come off the same assembly line school, right? That’s how we thought about things in 1920 when the modern school system was developed. Interchangeable parts, the assembly line. If you wreck your truck, you can replace it with an identical model, right? And each truck is equally capable.

And in an assembly line factory, each person is replaceable. If one man gets sick, just put the next man or woman in the slot. All people are the same and replaceable, right, just like drills and trucks and bottles of water? All children learn at the same speed and know the same things and are exactly alike, right?

But children and people are not trucks. Each one of us is a unique image of God, a portrait of God from a slightly different angle. There are similarities, but there are vast differences between different children and different people. Even twins have different personalities. And different children and different people know different things about God and have reached different points in their lives.

People who are the same age are not the same. And each learner needs people who care enough to lead them through their learning. It cannot be done in a mass production, assembly line method. It cannot even be done well with a market segmentation idea. Each learner needs a teacher who cares about them deeply, who will help them through the different stages of life. The government systems cannot provide this - but the church can provide this.

The school systems are stuck in a mass production mentality, with a little nod to the market segment idea – grades – 11 year olds learn this. 14 year olds learn that. Adults learn these things. But all people are different people, unique in their abilities and difficulties. The church is called to help each individual progress through life toward a wonderful relationship with God - and we are called to provide individual teachers and mentors who will care about each person in their care deeply, who will teach them the things of God at their individual rate, and who will be there to direct each person back to God and Christ and the Holy Spirit.

People are in different stages of life. What are those life stages, those stages we should all pass through?

Learning – We go through multiple periods of time in our lives when we are learning things. While it is generally true that young people who are going to school are learning, older people may go through stages when they are learning, also. I had a five year period about ten years ago when I spent four of the five years taking full-time graduate school classes. We learn different things at different times in our lives. After retirement, some of you learned new hobbies, new skills, new ways of dealing with government red tape.

Earning – We spend times in our lives earning a living. We trade our time to create things, to accomplish tasks, to do things for which we receive money which we use to buy food, water, clothing, shelter, and goods and services from other people.

Leading – There are times in our lives when we do not learn or do as much as lead others to do things. We point people in the right direction and lead teams to accomplish things. Without people in the leadership stage of life, very few large projects would be accomplished in this world.

Teaching – Many times our leadership is a special type of leadership known as teaching. A mother teaches her child to tie her shoe laces; a father teaches his son how to drive. A woman teaches a class in ceramics; a man teaches a couple of apprentices to repair car engines. A young woman teaches a group of retirement home people how to knit. And some people earn while they teach, teaching children or college students academic classes.

Moving On – There is also the life stage of moving on. We move on from one stage to another – and eventually we move on from this land of dying bodies to a land of eternal life.

Over the next few weeks, we’ll be discussing these life stages and how God wants us to make the most of each stage, moving from one stage to another and sometimes back to another stage. We’ll talk about embracing these life stages and we’ll use biblical examples of those stages. And hopefully, we’ll all come to appreciate where we are in our lives a bit better than we did before.

While it is true that most people pass through different stages of life in mostly the same order, it is not true that people pass through those life stages at the same rate. Everyone is different, everyone is unique, every image of God has a different path to walk. We can no more establish market segments for people, “grouping” to put people into, than treat everyone as interchangeable parts in an assembly line. For we must always realize that every person is different – and God has a different life plan for everyone. And the church can do that, for we are learning to love each other.

Our first stage is Learning. No matter who you are, most of the first twenty years of your life is spent in the learning stage. We learn to walk, We learn to tie shoe laces, we learn to speak, we learn to eat, we learn to go potty – and someone has to teach us all of this. You may be a person who is in the teaching stage with a learner.

But of all the things we are to learn in a lifetime, most will not matter a week after we’ve moved onto the next life. Our understanding of politics will be covered up by the justice that God and Christ dispense. Our understanding of architecture and building methods will be worthless next to the glories of New Jerusalem. Our detailed knowledge of computers, of Windows, of technology will be meaningless, for we all know that computers are of the devil. <grin> Our sports knowledge that occupies so much of our Saturdays and Sundays today will mean as much as knowing the standings of the various gladiators in the year AD 41.

What shall we learn that has eternal value? Let's look at a Biblical example:

Our first reading from Numbers 21 tells us that in the desert, the Israelites were complaining, so God sent poisonous snakes among them, which bit them and killed many of them.

The people came to Moses and said, “We sinned when we spoke against the Lord and against you. Pray that the Lord will take the snakes away from us.”

So Moses prayed for the people.

The Lord said to Moses, “Make a snake and put it up on a pole; anyone who is bitten can look at it and live.” So Moses made a bronze snake and put it up on a pole. Then when anyone was bitten by a snake and looked at the bronze snake, they lived.

It seems strange to us today, and it seemed strange in that day also, but those people who believed that God had actually spoken to Moses and made a promise and followed through by looking on the bronze snake – those people lived. Those who didn’t believe – they died.

It became part of the teaching of the people of Israel, that when God said to do something, no matter how strange it seems, you should do it because it will work. It will lead to life.

And so the people of Israel made sure that their children always learned about their history – all the times when God said to do something and what happened when people listened…and what happened when people didn’t listen. They learned about God and God’s character.

Over a thousand years later, Jesus referred to this snake episode in our John 3 reading. Jesus calls Himself the Son of Man.

“No one has ever gone into heaven except the one who came from heaven—the Son of Man. Just as Moses lifted up the snake in the wilderness, so the Son of Man must be lifted up, that everyone who believes may have eternal life in him.”

Will you lift up the Son of Man, Jesus Christ, that those learners in your care will look up to Him and believe? Just as the people who believed in the snake recovered from the snake bite, those who believe in Jesus will recover from death itself. Jesus continues:

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”

And who was Jesus talking to? A group of young men who were in the learner stage, Jesus’ disciples.

Paul pulls it altogether in our Corinthians reading:

“Jews demand signs and Greeks look for wisdom, but we preach Christ crucified:”

But most of us are neither Jewish nor Greek. What does this mean for us? We are all in the learning stage repeatedly through our lives. Everything we learn is driven by a handful of reasons:

We want to learn something to make more money…so we can be secure….and avoid death.

We want to learn something to have more prestige so we will be famous…so our name will live longer after we die.

We want to learn something to gain us wisdom…so we can be more secure…and avoid death.

We want to learn something so we can find the way we live forever. And so we investigate and learn all sorts of ideas about healthy living, about magical power, about becoming famous, about UFO’s, about staying young, about keeping our family safe. We look for the sensational, those who claim wonderful things so we can learn how to live.

Yes, in Paul’s day, Jews were demanding signs that showed that a particular man was sent by God. They looked for miraculous healings, prophecies, and similar events.

The Greeks were looking for wisdom, a philosophy, a way of living that made sense and would help people live.
 
We are the same. We look for wonderful signs and deep wisdom and philosophies.

But Paul had a simple answer:

“Jews demand signs and Greeks look for wisdom, but we preach Christ crucified:”


Paul knew that learning about Christ and the crucifixion was the only really critical thing to learn. It is the only thing that will lead you to eternal life - where you will have eternity to learn everything else.

Hebrews 6 says this:

Therefore let us move beyond the elementary teachings about Christ and be taken forward to maturity, not laying again the foundation of repentance from acts that lead to death, and of faith in God, instruction about baptisms, the laying on of hands, the resurrection of the dead, and eternal judgment.

This is the list of elementary school for Christians.

· Repent from acts that lead to Death

· Have faith in God

· Understand baptism and get baptized.

· Understand how the laying on of hands changes our Spirit

· Understand the resurrection

· And understand eternal judgement.

These are the six important things to learn and know and teach to others.

If you are a learner, understand that there are “elementary teachings about Christ”. Do you know these things? Do you really understand them? Here are the six critical things about the eternal life.

If you knew without a doubt that the world will be ending next week, would you already know these six things? Would you be able to teach your loved ones, your neighbors, your friends about these things?

Who me? Teach?

Everyone goes through stages in our lives when we teach. For every child who is learning to tie a pair of shoe laces, there is a teacher teaching this to that child. For every child who is learning to fry an egg, there is a teacher teaching this. For every person who is learning the elementary teachings about Christ, there is a teacher. And it isn’t always the pastor. It could be you. Remember: We move back and forth between different life stages.

In Hebrews 5, we find these harsh words from the writer:

We have much to say about this, but it is hard to make it clear to you because you no longer try to understand. In fact, though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you the elementary truths of God’s word all over again. You need milk, not solid food! Anyone who lives on milk, being still an infant, is not acquainted with the teaching about righteousness. But solid food is for the mature, who by constant use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil.

There is a time when we each are to move from the learner stage to the teacher stage. Even this week, I found out that we need an assistant to help teach the kindergarten class during Sunday School. We also need another assistant to help teach the youngest Pioneer Club group on Wednesday evenings.

And your dear friend needs someone to teach them the elementary teachings about Christ. For they are in the learning stage. Perhaps you are too, but their soul is asking you to learn quickly so you can teach others.

The learning stage is best and proper when it has a purpose. A child learns to read so they can learn many things even faster. A child learns math so they can solve complex real-life problems. A man or woman learns about Christ so they can find their salvation in Christ – and so they can teach others how to find that salvation.

Our Sunday School classes, our Wednesday classes, our Sunday evening class are not just a way to spend time. In those classes and study groups, we teach each other as we learn from each other. We grope our way toward a full and complete salvation, a salvation that began when we believed that Jesus is the Son of God and capable of saving us.

I’ve attended many churches since I became a Christian. And there is something I’ve noticed at most of those churches – it is the older, wiser people who are the most reliable attenders of mid-week and Sunday school groups, but it is those people who reliably attend those small groups while they are younger who make the most difference for God in their lives.

70 and 80 year olds are common at Bible studies because, as a former 90-year old teacher of mine once said, he was “studying for finals.”

But those people who are in their teens, their 20’s, their 30’s, their 40’s – they are the ones who have the time and energy to learn to lead many others to Christ, to start missions that take the Gospel into the world, that find the way to put new ministries online, on television, on the radio. Billy Graham was barely 30 when he held his first Crusade – and his Crusades only changed a little bit after he turned 35. The first few years fixed the successful pattern. And Billy had about sixty years of highly productive ministry.

Young adults – set aside time today to learn the elementary truths of God’s word so you can use those truths to raise your family and fix our world.

Older folk – learn quickly so you can teach others. Don’t bemoan the years lost – learn now so you can make the most of the years you have left.

And those who are in-between – With the developments in medical care, you can learn today and still have twenty or thirty years of purpose in your life. I was fifty years old when I began seminary.

And if you are a child or young person – learn to focus upon what is important in this life and the next. Mark – the young man who wrote the Gospel of Mark, was about 14 years old when he met Jesus. His story of Jesus’ life has led a billion people to Christ. Find adult classes and join us. Or push your Sunday School teachers to teach you deeper. Read your Bible starting with Mark’s Gospel. Learn what is really important – your eternal life is far more important than a video game.

And parents – establish a household where "Bible reading and discussion are just what we do around here." Your family can talk about football at the dinner table – or about Samson. You can talk about politics – or you can talk about King David. You can talk about Taylor Swift – or you can talk about Paul’s tentmaking.

Learning is a stage of life.

"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”
Yet all of Christ’s sacrifice means nothing to someone who does not learn what it means.

Join us in Sunday School. Join us tonight at 6:30 pm on Sunday evenings. Join us at a Wednesday group.

And learn about the God who loves you enough to die for you.

Amen

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

Love and Forgiveness

In February, in the winter of 1743, in Newcastle in the north of England, John Wesley, the leader of the early Methodist Movement, held a meeting of the fast-growing Newcastle Methodist Society, which numbered approximately 800 souls – just nine months after John had started the Society. As the multi-day meeting progressed, Wesley took time to meet with each of the small groups, and talk to each member…and when the dust had settled, 64 members were expelled from the Society.

Why did Wesley take such a drastic step?

Exodus 12:1-14; Psalm 149; Romans 13:8-14; Matthew 18:15-20

There are multiple biblical considerations for expelling people from a church. The most dramatic was in Acts 5, when Ananias and his wife Sapphira were slain by God one day because they had lied to the apostles about a gift they gave to the church.

But our reading from Matthew 18 was indeed another source. It provides Jesus’ authority for kicking someone out of a church for unrepentant, regular sin.

After kicking out his 64 members, John Wesley put down certain rules for the Societies. To JOIN a society, a person needed to only show that they had “a desire to flee from the wrath to come, to be saved from their sins.”

But after a while in the societies, to CONTINUE in the societies, a person was expected “to show evidence of their desire of salvation, First, By doing no harm, …Secondly, By doing good,…Thirdly, By attending upon all the ordinances of God.”

And Wesley gave specific examples, which we can find that he had applied to the 64 people the week before.

Why did Wesley kick out people?

2 for cursing and swearing

2 for habitual Sabbath-breaking

17 for drunkenness

2 for retailing alcohol

3 for quarreling and brawling

1 for beating his wife

3 for habitual, willful lying

4 for railing and evil-speaking

1 for idleness and laziness, and

29 for lightness and carelessness

(from Wesley and the People called Methodists Richard P. Heitzenrater)

Thomas Willis, one of Wesley’s small group leaders asked for common sense and grace to be applied, especially to Sabbath-keeping. While he could follow the Golden Rule “very near to perfection,” he could not strictly follow the other written examples, especially the Sabbath-keeping. After all, cows must be milked morning and evening, children must be fed, and milk will not last from Saturday morning until Monday in that time before pasteurization and refrigeration. Wesley, ever the practical man with common sense replied. “Quite right.”

Wesley, you see, recognized that love and forgiveness are more important than strict rule-following.

Wesley even developed a method for handling the troublesome cases, the people who were kicked out of their small groups. He gave them a chance to repent and join a remedial "backsliders" class, just for those who had drifted back into a non-Christian way of living.

So how should we handle things today? How should a dispute between people be handled – either a small dispute between two people in the church, two people on Facebook, or a large dispute between nations, such as the current dispute between America and North Korea?

In all things, we are to imitate God and Christ and be led by the Holy Spirit. Let’s look first at our Exodus lesson.

After meeting with God at the Burning Bush, Moses returned to Egypt and recruited his brother Aaron as his spokesman. Moses and Aaron had many things going for them. God was behind them, and God Himself had indicted Pharaoh when he said: “I have indeed seen the misery of my people in Egypt. I have heard them crying out because of their slave drivers, and I am concerned about their suffering. … And now the cry of the Israelites has reached me, and I have seen the way the Egyptians are oppressing them.” (Exodus 3:7, 9)

This was not just a dispute between Moses and Pharaoh or even between God and Pharaoh. There were people who were in misery, were suffering, and were being oppressed. Many people were being affected by the policies of Pharaoh. So Moses and Aaron visited Pharaoh and delivered God’s message: “Let my people go!”

Things did not go well at the meeting. Pharaoh would not let the Israelites leave. So God began a pattern of gradually escalating the sanctions against Pharaoh. A series of nine plagues gradually built up the pressure against Pharaoh. Finally, God decided to take a final action. The Angel of Death would travel across Egypt and kill the firstborn of both people and animals. The people of Israel were given instructions that would keep them alive.

They had to bring a lamb into the house on the tenth day of the month. “Oh, a pet lamb”, the children said. “We have a pet lamb!” and then on the fourteenth evening, Dad killed the lamb and everybody ate it and they smeared the blood around the outside of the door and because of that lamb’s blood big brother lived through the night while next door, people didn’t believe Moses and their eldest died.

So God slowly, slowly ratcheted up the sanctions against Pharaoh, giving Pharaoh every chance, every opportunity to change his mind. Finally, after all the death that night, Pharaoh let the Israelites go and they got out of town, but then Pharaoh changed his mind and chased them, only to die when God let the waters of the Red Sea come crashing down on him.

Our God isn’t a god of second chances, God is a god of many, many chances. We always have the chance to turn and ask for forgiveness from God. It is never too late until the end when the dark water of death crashes over you. That is how much God loves us. Remember, Moses, the man who delivered God’s messages, was a murderer who turned to listen to God. He had received a second chance.

When Jesus began His ministry, one of key problems in Judean society was the interaction between the Pharisees and the ordinary people.

The Pharisees insisted that people follow the Laws of Moses. And, to their credit, the Pharisees were pretty good at following those laws. But the Pharisees had almost completely removed love and forgiveness from their lives. To a fine, upstanding Pharisee, following the Law of Moses was everything. If you followed that law well, you were a good person and deserved everything that happened to you. If you didn’t follow those Mosaic laws well, you were a bad person and deserved everything that happened to you.

And so, the Pharisees treated poor people poorly because they didn’t wear the proper, but expensive robes men were supposed to wear. The Pharisees treated divorced women poorly because they all had “obviously” done something to deserve their divorces. The Pharisees treated those who found themselves choosing between working for Romans or not working at all, as unclean because they were speaking with unclean people. To the Pharisees, no one deserved a second chance. The trap of the Pharisees is an inability to give grace and forgiveness, worshiping the Law over God, the Lawgiver.

It is a trap we often fall into today. We don’t hire ex-cons because they did jail time. We don’t hire poor people because they wear shabby clothing. We don’t want to help the drug addicted because they are drug addicted and unpredictable. We don’t talk to people who have said mean things to us because they have said mean things to us. We don’t like to give second chances, yet God is the god of many, many chances.

As Christians, we are to show love to all people, to all our neighbors, to all those people we encounter. And we are tp forgive repeatedly.

In our Romans reading, Paul tells us:

[We have] “the continuing debt to love one another, for whoever loves others has fulfilled the law.”

That is what we owe each other – a debt to love each other. Although there are many other ways we should act, we must be careful, oh, so careful to remember that we are most responsible for our own behavior. We don’t want to take on responsibility for other people’s behavior. That is what causes so much harm in churches and has driven away so many people - when we take on responsibility for their behavior instead of our own behavior.

For example, let’s say you catch a friend of yours in adultery. Assuming the friend is not involved with your spouse, what are we to do? Well, that depends.

Is your friend a very new Christian who really doesn’t know any better? Are you in a position of spiritual authority over him or her, being their Sunday School teacher or similar? If you can answer yes to both questions, pull him or her aside and say, “Perhaps you didn’t realize this, but we Christians aren’t supposed to do this. Just wanted to let you know.”

But really, how many people are very new Christians who don’t know any better?

Let’s be real – In America, virtually everyone realizes that adultery is sinful behavior. So what should we do when we see our friend who has been a professing Christian for years involved in adultery?

Nothing. Nothing at all.

“Pastor, You mean I should turn a blind eye?”

Almost. I guess I'd be more careful about my friend and my spouse being alone together...

But truly, a person’s sin is usually between that person and God, not between that person and you. Let God judge. Leave room to let God enact punishment. Your friend knows he or she is walking a dangerous road. Don’t make things worse by confronting your friend who knows what is right and wrong – or worse yet, by gossiping about him or her.

But if your friend comes to you for advice, say, “Let’s talk!” and then give godly advice. And then keep it to yourself! Don't talk about your conversation. It is how you’d like your sins to be treated, isn’t it?

Paul continues:

The commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not covet,” and whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”

Love does no harm to a neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.


Remember John Wesley’s first general rule? “First, do no harm.”

But what do we do if a person is sinning against us? What do you do if your friend is committing adultery with your spouse, or has done something shady in a business deal with you or is continually insulting you?

First, consider the amount of harm done. If possible, forgive them. Remember Jesus’ comment on this. Forgive seventy times seven times. Love them. Forgive them.

I often tell new people to this fellowship that we have great people, but that we are still imperfect people. The only perfect person died for all of us 2000 years ago. And so, one day, someone in this congregation – and it might even be me – is going to say something mean and nasty to you one day. And worse yet, it won’t be an accident, they will mean it!

So what do we do that makes us different from most people?

Now, we might get angry. We might be embarrassed. We might get mad. But then, as in all great churches, real Christians say to ourselves and anyone else standing around, “Poor thing. Must be having a rough day.” And we forgive them and let it drop right then and there. Gone. Finished. Forgiven. The ability to quickly forgive is what makes us different.

And Jesus gives us practical commands on how to deal with a dispute in the church. If someone is constantly sinning against you, if they are gossiping about you, defaming you, constantly insulting you, there certain steps we are to take.

First of all, we talk to them privately about the issue. We say, “This is hurting me…perhaps you didn’t realize it. Please stop.” And we give them a chance to stop. Or a chance to make amends. We assume that the other is a godly person. We don’t gossip about the problem first and make it embarrassing to the other, or a test of wills, or of a public power battle. We speak to them privately and quietly and give them the benefit of the doubt.

If they won't stop, the second step Jesus says, is to take one or two other members of the church along, preferably leaders in the church who can testify honestly about what is said. Once again, explain your position and ask the other to stop. Give them a chance to explain and stop without backing them into a corner. Understanding the other and giving them a chance to fix things is the godly way to do things.

The final step is to present the case to the whole church. The Methodist structure would ask that you present the case to the pastor and the church council before going in front of the whole church, for sometimes the dispute can still be handled quietly. Remember – our purpose is never to defeat or destroy our enemy, but for both parties to show godly behavior.

You and I have both seen many situations over the years where people in the church did not follow these steps of forgiveness, love, and quiet, godly discussion. And you and I have seen feelings hurt and churches that began 20-year fights because someone made a negative comment about a dress or a casserole or a Chevy pickup. I’ve talked to many people who tell me their parents left such-and-such church because someone made a negative comment, and those children have now grown, have children of their own, and haven’t gone back to church yet. And now the devil has used that chance comment to keep a generation of grandchildren from salvation.

Listen up! If we insist upon holding other people to a high standard of behavior without being even quicker to forgive, we have missed one of the key lessons that Jesus taught. We are to forgive, realizing that each of us could make the same mistake tomorrow.

Folks, we are all broken people. If John Wesley’s detailed rules were followed strictly, each one of us would be kicked out of the Society. But he was wise enough to show grace and common sense to all but the most troublesome cases, and he even forgave them if they wanted to try again by putting them in a backsliders class.

Just as every set of bicycle gears occasionally gets some dirt and sand in them, every church occasionally gets some friction in the spaces between people. A joke that is out of line, a teasing that goes wrong, a misinterpreted glance can lead to all sorts of problems if we act according to the flesh, the way the world and Satan would have us react. But giving the benefit of the doubt, looking at the other with love and a willingness to FORGIVE what is unforgivable is the grease that keeps the gears of a great church like this one running. Never forget that.

And this advice is not just for churches. 

Imagine what our world would be like if we applied the same principles to Facebook. First, private message or even talk to the person on the phone or in person. Next, discuss in a small private group with wise mutual friends. Only as a last resort go public. And always be ready to forgive at any step - yes, even without an apology, even if they insult you further. Can you imagine what our political discourse would be like in this country if we allowed politicians the grace to make mistakes and forgave them when they do?

Marriages and other relationships also get sand in the gears. Too often we think we are reading the other’s mind. Too often, we react to the first expression on our spouse’s face, too often we don’t realize that the other has already let something go – because we haven’t let go of something else. Direct communication, coupled with love and forgiveness, are keys to keeping marriages and other relationships healthy. Married Christians should forgive each other constantly.

When Saundra and I go out, we often overhear married couples speak to each other. Some speak easily, secure with each other, loving each other deeply.

But others speak to each other worse than schoolboys fighting on the playground.

Robert Heinlein, the science fiction writer, once wrote that formal politeness between man and wife is even more important than in society at large.

Yet, if the truth be known, our marriages are weak because we would rather win an argument than forgive, we would rather be in control than compromise, and we would rather lust after another than do the hard work required to love our spouse. We put our pride before our love.

For in the Greek language, there are four words for love. The love Jesus talks about is not eros, the physical love that burns hot and consumes each other, but agape, the self-sacrificing love that Jesus showed all of us when he chose to die upon the cross rather than let us continue to be slaughtered like sheep. It was the agape self-sacrificing love of God that brought us back to God, forgiven, rather than storge love, the love of a grandparent’s affection for a grandchild. It was the agape self-sacrificing love of Jesus that sent Jesus to this earth to teach us rather than the phileos brotherly love of a man and his brother.

If you want your marriage to be strong, practice more agape, more self-sacrificing love and forgiveness. Do not demand perfection from your spouse – if you want perfection from the one you are devoted to, become a nun or a monk. Instead, do the part you can do – demand forgiveness from yourself.

And then, if possible, you and your spouse will be in agreement and you will pray together. Which provides great and wonderful hope for this world, for Jesus said:

“Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”

A church that is in agreement, that has practiced agape love and forgiveness, is an awesome thing. Here is the body of Christ upon the earth taking form. Just as in a human body, it is focused upon one goal. Here, just as in a human body, the body of Christ is able to accomplish great deeds. Here, more than any human body, the body of Christ can change the entire world.

In 1792, a group of five Christian men founded the Baptist Missionary Society, which is still in existence and has been responsible for the conversion of millions of people around the world. It was the birth of the Protestant Missionary movement.

In 1955, a group of five Christian college students at Wheaton College decided to become missionaries in Ecuador with New Tribes Missions. They and their wives converted the entire group of Waodani people, which has now sent missionaries to other countries.

On June 17, 1729, four men began to meet twice a week for scripture study and prayer in Oxford, England. Bob Kirkland, William Morgan, Charles and John Wesley were the initial group. They became called the Holy Club. They followed God’s leading, they prayed, and soon Methodism was born. Before Wesley died, there were over 500 preachers and 56,000 Methodists in Britain alone. And the American Methodists were just getting started.

Beginning next Sunday evening at 6:30 pm, we will form a small Wesleyan group to meet weekly for an hour. Our purpose, like Wesley’s, is so that our souls may be saved and perhaps others too. Our first concern will be a focus upon what it means to be in a Wesley small group, to show agape love to each other and practice strong forgiveness. And perhaps, we will see just what can happen when we agree upon something and pray for it. All are welcome to attend.

When you are feeling down, when you are angry, when things are going wrong, remember not to go with the emotions boiling and churning in your body, as Paul says, “Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the flesh.”

One final word. I once was very concerned that everybody treat me right, that everybody follow the rules and treat me well. I grew angry when people did not. And thus, I was always angry.

But then, I learned what it means to love others and to forgive others. I learned what I means to clothe myself with the Lord Jesus Christ. I learned to stop thinking about how to gratify the desires of the flesh, but instead I try to do God’s will in all things. It is not easy, but I try.

And now I am rarely angry, I am usually at peace, and my life is much better, for now, I am not trying to control the uncontrollable, which are other people. I only worry about controlling my response, which is to love and forgive people. And it’s funny….when I follow what Christ says to do…I have the peace of Christ.

Amen.